6:30 pm – 9:00 pm Speaker Panel and Interactive Group Session
Saturday, October 19th
9:30 am Registration, Newcomer Meet & Greet*
*New to SLAA? Come at 9:30 am before the workshop to be warmly greeted by current members who will answer general questions about SLAA fellowship and the workshop.
10:00 am Welcome and SLAA readings
10:15 am – 11:15 am Speakers
11:30 am – 12:30 pm Breakout Session Block 1
12:30 pm – 1:30 pm Lunch
1:45 pm – 2:45 pm Breakout Session Block 2
3:00 pm – 4:00 pm Breakout Session Block 3
4:00 pm – 4:30 pm Closing and Fellowship
Breakout Session Descriptions
*sessions marked with asterisk are suggested for newcomers
BLOCK 1: 11:30 am - 12:30 pm
Defining Sobriety & Setting Bottom Lines*
What does sobriety look like in recovery from sex and love addiction? How do we define it? This session will look at common “bottom line” behaviors and will offer tools that participants can use to define and pursue their sobriety with the help of the SLAA program, a sponsor and a Higher Power.
Working with others and carrying the message of hope is essential to experience and maintain our recovery from sex and love addiction. Sponsorship is one way to live out the 12thstep and to practice the fellowship’s primary purpose: “to carry its message to the sex and love addict who still suffers.” This session will discuss various aspects of sponsorship and will address questions such as “How do I find and choose a sponsor? When do I start to sponsor others? Howdo I sponsor others? What are healthy features of a sponsor-sponsee relationship?” and other concepts.
Searching and Fearless: Steps 4 & 5
This session will challenge the fear, trepidation and mystery that often shrouds Step 4 and will provide a new perspective and practical tools to empower recovering sex and love addicts to make a searching and fearless moral inventory of themselves and then take Step 5 in order to move through the remaining steps and embrace the promises of the program.
BLOCK 2: 1:45 pm - 2:45 pm
Moving Through Withdrawal*
This session will discuss common signs and symptoms of withdrawal and will offer coping strategies to help one move through this initial phase of recovery and the overall process of surrender. There is hope and life beyond withdrawal!
Defects, Assets, and the Humble Ask – Steps 6 & 7
A character defect can often be problematic for the addict, but on some level it can serve a valuable function of survival. While these defects may have served an individual, their dysfunctional motivations generally nurture unmanageability. This session explores the development of willingness to release these defects and methods to cultivate assets in their place. We will also discuss the acknowledgement that it is not fully self-will, but the relationship of self to Higher Power that allows new assets to develop and defects to be transformed through the “humble ask.”
Sexual Anorexia & Love Avoidance
Sexual Anorexia is “the compulsive avoidance of giving or receiving social, sexual, or emotional nourishment.” In this session we will discuss characteristics of sexual anorexia/love avoidance and look at how to identify bottom line behaviors and approach recovery and the 12 steps from a recovering anorexic’s perspective.
BLOCK 3: 3:00 pm - 4:00 pm
Steps 2 & 3: Defining and Surrendering to a Higher Power*
So you recognize that you are powerless over sex and love addiction and that your life is unmanageable—now what?! Steps 2 & 3 invite us out of the problem and into the solution by asking us to come to believe that there is a power greater than us that canrestore us to sanity. This session offers experience, strength and hope on how to define a Higher Power and then surrender to that Power in order to move toward freedom from sex and love addiction.
Building Healthy Relationships
As we get sober in SLAA and refrain from acting out and other bottom line behaviors, we learn how to build healthy relationships—with ourselves andwith others. This session will explore what it looks like to build healthy partnership no matter where you are in your recovery journey: single, looking to explore a new partnership, or if you are in an existing partnership making a renewal of your commitment.
Top Lines: Finding the Joy in Recovery
Recovery is not allhard work…there’s play, too! “We can't simply stop destructive behavior. We have to replace it with healthy new activities” (from the SLAA book). During this session we will explore “top line” behaviors and activities that we can engage to bring life and levity to our program of recovery. Share ideas with others in recovery and sample some activities that you can incorporate in your day-to-day to add to the list of healthy “do’s” rather than live just by a list of unhealthy “do not’s!"